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Strength In Self Control As Men

True strength is not in how loud a man can roar or how firm his muscles appear—it is in his ability to control himself. Proverbs 16:32 says, “Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.” As a man of godly value, your power is not measured by how many battles you fight but by how many temptations you overcome. Self-control is the proof that the Spirit of God is at work in you. In a world where men are often pressured to prove themselves by wealth, women, or status, it takes courage to be different. Saying “no” to ungodly desires, shutting your eyes from lust, or keeping your integrity when no one is watching is not weakness—it is true strength. Joseph did not conquer Egypt’s throne room first; he conquered his own desires in Potiphar’s house. That was the victory that positioned him for greater glory. Self-control also affects how you lead your home, ministry, and relationships. A man who cannot bridle his anger will wound his wife and childr...
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Start Small, Obey Big: A Charge to Men of Godly Value

Every great man you admire today once stood where you are—at the edge of a small beginning, faced with the decision to move or to wait. The truth is, there will never be a “perfect time” to start what God has placed in your heart. Many men waste precious years waiting for human approval before stepping into divine assignment. Brother, if God has trusted you with a vision, don’t despise it because it looks small. That small Bible study, that little prayer group, that simple business idea—it is God’s seed in your hands. The trap of waiting for validation is deadly. If you need applause before obedience, you will never truly fulfill destiny. Men may not see what God has shown you, and that’s okay. Noah didn’t need a vote to build the ark; he needed obedience. What God has committed to you is not a suggestion; it’s a mandate. Say yes and start now. The oil flows when you pour it out, not when you keep it in the jar of hesitation. Greatness begins in obscurity. When David killed lions and b...

MEN, LEARN TO SAY NO

As a man of godly value, you must learn how to say no to any lady who fights against your values and priorities. Your values are not just personal preferences; they are convictions rooted in God’s Word and tied to your purpose and destiny. When you compromise them for emotional comfort or fear of losing someone, you risk losing yourself and derailing your calling. Amos 3:3 asks, "Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?" If she resists or mocks what defines your life in Christ, it is not love—it is opposition disguised as affection. Saying no is not about arrogance or pride; it is about guarding your God-given assignment. Proverbs 4:23 says, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life." The woman who fights your values today will eventually fight your purpose tomorrow. A godly man must prioritize alignment over attraction, purpose over pleasure, and obedience to God over emotional attachment. If she constantly competes with you...

WHEN SHE IS EVERYTHING YOUR PRAYED FOR BUT YOU ARE NOT READY

Brother, I know what it feels like to meet her—the woman who seems like an answer to the very prayers you whispered in your quiet moments. She’s godly, kind, wise, and her presence brings peace. But deep inside, there’s this uneasy feeling: “I’m not ready.” Not ready to lead her, to build with her, or even to hold the weight of such a gift. And that’s not weakness—that’s honesty. A man who admits he needs to grow is already on the path to becoming. Proverbs 24:27 reminds us of divine order: prepare your field before you build your house. In other words, get your life, your vision, your values, and your spiritual foundation in place before trying to build a future with someone. It’s not enough to desire her; you must also be positioned to protect and provide—not just financially, but emotionally, spiritually, and in purpose. Your field must be fruitful before your house can stand strong. Don’t mistake delay for denial. If she truly aligns with your future, God is not using time to take ...

MEN, ARE YOU SPOILING HER OR PROTECTING HER?

A man of godly value must learn the difference between spoiling and protecting—between enabling and truly loving. Spoiling people, especially ladies, often comes from a place of insecurity masked as kindness. It's when you overextend yourself emotionally, financially, or spiritually in the name of care, while ignoring the truth that love without discipline becomes destructive. On the other hand, protecting someone means being committed enough to set boundaries, say no when necessary, and lead with wisdom, not weakness. Proverbs 25:28 says, “Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.” When you refuse to set boundaries, you're not being generous—you’re being careless with the garden God asked you to guard. As a godly man, your calling is not to buy affection, but to build trust. You are not called to raise entitled partners, but to serve and lead in love. Ephesians 5:25 calls men to “love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave him...

HOW TO HANDLE TIMIDITY AS A MAN

Dear men of Godly value, Humility is not timidity. It is not the absence of strength, but the discipline to use your strength wisely. A humble man knows when to speak and when to stay silent, when to fight and when to walk away. Jesus, our perfect example, was meek but not weak—He boldly rebuked wrong but gently restored the broken. In Matthew 11:29, He said, “Learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” As a man of vision, you must protect your peace and mental clarity without apology. You carry a divine assignment, and not everyone will understand it or support it. That’s why guarding your vision is not pride—it’s wisdom. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Guard your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the issues of life.” When your heart is wounded or distracted, your leadership suffers. Be humble enough to say no to unnecessary drama, and strong enough to say yes to rest, healing, and focus. Dear brother, protecting your peace is not selfish—...

UNDERSTANDING THE DANGER OF INDECISION AS A MAN

Men of godly value must learn to be decisive according to the safety of the purpose God has ordained for their lives. Indecision is not a mark of spiritual maturity—it is often a silent thief of destiny. When a man continually delays critical decisions concerning his calling, relationships, associations, or direction, he risks exposing his future to unnecessary battles and distractions. Purpose flourishes in the presence of clarity, not confusion. Many men are gifted, anointed, and full of potential, yet they remain stuck—not because God hasn't spoken, but because they haven’t moved. What are you still delaying that God has already confirmed? Are you waiting for the crowd to agree with what God told you in the secret place? Decisions aligned with divine purpose may not always be popular, but they are always safe. Safety is not found in comfort zones but in the center of God's will. Being decisive is not about rushing into action—it’s about submitting to direction. It’s about ch...