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Men! Say No to Gaslighting

My brother, you were not created to be anyone’s emotional punching bag. You are a man made in the image and likeness of God, crowned with dignity, purpose, and strength. Refuse to settle for emotional manipulation masked as love. Gaslighting is not love—it is control wrapped in confusion. When someone constantly makes you question your reality, your worth, or your sanity, that is not your safe place; that is a toxic trap. “The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble” (Psalm 9:9).

It is not prideful or unloving to walk away from consistent abuse and dishonor. Love does not cancel your humanity. You are allowed to have peace. You are allowed to protect your heart. You are allowed to say, “This is not healthy for me.” Don’t feel guilty for choosing growth, healing, and emotional stability. Even Jesus walked away from places where He was dishonored (Mark 6:5-6). If He didn’t stay where He was not received, why should you?

Sometimes, the guilt you feel isn’t the voice of God but the echo of manipulation trying to chain you in cycles of suffering. But you must remember: “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7). Abuse is not your assignment. Staying in dysfunction is not the mark of endurance. Endurance is staying faithful to your identity and calling in Christ—not staying buried in an environment that slowly kills your self-worth.

So, rise up, man of God. Your masculinity is not defined by how much pain you can silently endure, but by your courage to set boundaries, pursue peace, and walk in truth. You don’t have to prove your love by tolerating dishonor. You are not weak for wanting joy. You are not less spiritual for walking away from what dishonors your soul. “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23). You are valuable, and your peace matters.

Prince Victor Matthew 

Hope Expression Values you 

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