In the world of love and relationship, we always have the ups and down from time to time. There will be times of pain and time of refreshing. I want to use Eccl 3:1 as my case study here. I also want to dedicate this post to men. You are a Son in God's kingdom and you deserve the best in love and relationship.
There is time for every thing in life and I want you to open your eyes and learn. You can’t just be living as thou you can do what we like just because you are handsome and heart broken. You need to come to a place where you respect order, time, and season. This is the first principle in you becoming the man God created you to be.
She is innocent! You might not agree with me but this lady in front of you. This lady that asked you out or the lady you just accepted for a serious relationship is innocent. I need you to come to place where you let go all the anger, revenge, and bitterness in your heart. I know you gave your best to your ex. I admit that you were honest, sincere, and truthful to your ex. I know your ex toke your loyalty from granted. I know that your ex lied on you and cheated on you. I know your ex deceived you and stole your money from you. I acknowledge these are things you ex did to you.
I am not in any way, justifying your ex faults and mistakes. I know you gave your all and there are deep hurts in your heart no body know but in all, I want you to let this bitterness to go. This fight is not between you and all the female gender. This is a fight between you and your past. You can’t afford to keep walking in revenge, isolation, and bitterness. You can’t just use your past and the faults of your ex to justify this misbehavior you see as a norm.
The fact that your ex took your calls, text mesages, and whatsup messages for granted does not mean, you should just loose your passion for calling, texting and whatsup messages. Your next relationship or your present relationship will need those same Godly things your ex took for granted. You were polite in your previous relationship and ex took it as weakness. Your next relationship or present relationship will need you to be polite in other for you to succeed. Don’t let the immaturity of your ex turn your kindness into wickedness. Don’t allow this lady before you now to suffer for all the wrongs of your ex; she is innocent!
Every single thing that are Godly, your ex took for granted are still needed in your next relationship or your present relationship. You don’t have to be rude to prove you are not a fool. You don’t need to start arguing just to prove any point. You don’t have to prove you are the man. You don’t need to show you are not weak. Don’t let the pain of your past take the good side of you into darkness. The fact that you ex left you because you refused to have sex with her does not mean you should agree to sex before marriage, in your next relationship or present relationship.
God presented Eve to Adam. God has presented your Eve to you. Don’t make the mistake to think she is like all the wrong people you’ve met in the past. You need to stop being rude to her. Stop ignoring her calls, text messages and whatsup messages. Why are you making her to suffer over things that she is innocent? She was not there when your ex cheated on you. She did not make your ex to do any of the things your ex did to you. You single handedly accepted your ex that took you for granted. It was your choice or fault. Why are you now making this lady to pay for the consequences of your own wrong decision? Why are you dragging this innocent lady into some thing she has no clue. THIS IS A FIGHT IS BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR PAST. This Lady is innocent!
It’s time you sit down and forgive your self, forgive your ex and reconcile with your past. You need to ask Jesus to heal you and rescue from the pain of your past. Learn from your pain and past. Gain the wisdom in your regrets and become a better lady. It’s time for you to love again and trust again. Stop bringing the past into the present. Stop using your past to judge the attitude and mindset of this lady before you. Stop using your own fears, doubts and worries to judge this lady’s attitude. Deal with your own fears, worries and doubts through Gods word.
I have a word from you. Isaiah 43:18-19 says, Remember not the former things, don’t consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.
Are you ready to obey Gods word? This lady is innocent and let this be in your mind constantly; you are accountable to God for how you treat and talk to people (even if they have offended you). On the final day before the throne of God, you will give an account of how you spoke and treated the ladies that you asked out, those you dated, those you respected, those you double dated, those you cheated, those you despised…etc.
God wants you to claim down. He wants you to drop the revenge, bitterness and negative attitude. Its time to enjoy the relationship that is before you or the one you will enter next. Ladies are not the same. Every lady has her own uniqueness and there is individual differences among ladies. Every lady is a female gender but all female gender has no similar destiny or character. Don’t generalize one lady’s attitude on the rest of the ladies. If you change your perspective about this, you have changed your experienced. As you keep thinking, so your experience will be.
It’s time you trust the Lord to help every lady coming your way to be better, loving, caring and wiser than the previous ones that took you for granted. It’s time you trust the Lord to help your fears, worries and doubts. It’s time you treat every lady that comes your way in the way God treats you. Its time to forgive ladies the way Jesus has forgiven you. If God has every shown you mercy, then don’t deny people that offend you the mercy God gave you freely. If God never made you beg for any thing, don’t allow any body beg for any thing no matter the situation. If you know you can not be rude to Jesus if you see Him face to face, then don’t be rude to people irrespective of your anger. INSTEAD OF YOU TESTING THIS LADY AND TOILING WITH HIS FEELINGS TO KNOW, IF HE WON’T HURT YOU LIKE YOUR EX DID – TRUST GOD TO HELP HIM TO BECOME A BETTER AND WISER LADY. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and don’t depend on your own understand. In all your decisions, acknowledge God’s desire and He will direct your path. THIS LADY IS INNOCENT….
#John 15:5
#Matthew 11:28-30
There is still HOPE for you in Christ Jesus.
Thanks.
Yours sincerely,
Prince Victor Matthew
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