Be A Man

Seek to understand her person

You cannot love a person you don't know or understand. Love is spelt as understanding the totality of her person.

Her past, present, challenges, weakness, strength, temperament, struggles etc. Understanding another person is a huge task and that is why you need the Holy Spirit to teach you how to love her.

This is one of the reasons why falling in love with an unbeliever is a mistake, he simply cannot know or understand you talk less of adequately loving you in the real sense.

Seek healing for her past hurts

Some ladies are wounded and bleeding as a result of childhood abuse, rape, verbal, emotional or psychological rejection etc.

Whatever the situation, in loving her, you must seek to help her in her healing process. Until she is healed of her past she cannot receive or enjoy love.

Loving her means not using her past against her.

Point her always to God

A wise guy will make sure her fiancée has a personal relationship with the Lord.

If she is not having a solid relationship with God, you encourage her to. This is the wisest thing any guy can do for his bae.

The logic behind this is that the more she knows God the more her weaknesses give way for strength and the more she learns to be the best person Jesus died for.

This is important because there is less stress eventually for the guy. The Lord becomes her strength and not the guy. Less pressure and burden are placed on the guy.

Be sincere with her

Sincerity builds trust. When a guy is transparent and open as a book, the lady sees it as love and she will in turn trust the guy.

Let her know your weaknesses and strength. Show her you believe in her. Tell her where you are presently in terms of finances, academics, your family background.

Don't lie to her that the former Vice President is your uncle and a job in an oil company is waiting for you after you graduate.

Let her know you. Let her know that you are trusting God for a bight future together.

Never shut her down or shout on her

Almost every lady will complain about this. When you shut her down or shout on her, it affects her esteem because she will conclude she is not important or valued by you.

Think about it, you don't shout on people you respect or regard. Your regard and admiration for them prevents you from doing that.

No matter how irrelevant what you think she is saying, you have no moral justification to shout or shut her down. Some guys may say, she is stubborn, she doesn't listen etc. But whichever way, you can't afford to treat her like you would any other person.

She is special and must be treated as such.

Take care of her needs

A lady has many needs, material, emotional and spiritual

Love to a lady is spelt being there for her at such times of need.

As a guy who loves her genuinely, you should show empathy for her needs.

Definitely you will not be expected to meet all her needs especially since you are not her Jehovah Jireh.

However, the guy is expected to show concern and encourage her in those times of need. Don't just ignore her needs and pretend as if those needs are not important.

Let are know that her needs are important.

Let her feel well taken care of. One of the distraction and deception the devil uses for ladies is to make them feel the other guy can take care of them better.

As a man, don't let the devil have the opportunity of deceiving her, take care of her well.

Speak Into her life

Words for a woman are very important. More so, words from her head, her priest and her crown. Speak kind words to her.

Never lash at her with your words. Never hurt or wound her with your words. Such words go deep into her heart, causing deep emotional pains.

A lady can never be all she has potential to become if all she hears from her fiancé are downgrading words. Take up the role of a high priest in her life.

Keep speaking God's word over her life. The lady is like a vine, which initially looks weak and as to coil round a wall or stake but later develop deep roots and branches and becomes very strong.

Listen to her

There is no real love until you pay attention to her when she speaks.

The only way you can truly know a person is to listen when they speak. It's from their words you understand how they reason, their opinions and their view points on issues

When your fiancée talks and you give her undivided attention, you are telling her she is important enough to listen to.

That you value what she has to say so much, you want to listen.

That she is intelligent enough in her conversation, you want to listen.

What guys don't understand is that when you treat your fiancée as though she is not intelligent, she notices, it affects her esteem and she begins to believe she is not intelligent and begins to act out what she believes.

Believe in her

As a guy who loves her, you express this love by believing in her and verbalizing it.

You have to love her enough to believe in her dreams, her future and her aspirations.

Don't ever treat her like her dreams don't really matter and that all her life is rounded up in you.

Some guys believe that since the lady is their help meet as instituted by God, she has no life or dreams of her own to pursue.

She is to live her life to help the man achieve his purpose only? This will do nothing but kill her dreams and desire to dream, because she will just conclude it's all about the guy.

Pray for her

Jesus Christ who models for us how the husband is supposed to love his own wife was seen on several occasions praying for the church, his bride.

As a matter of fact, Jesus, after he won the victory over sin and death, ascended and He is seated at the right hand of the Father, praying for the church.

He is our high priest, interceding for us. He ever lives before the father, his blood is ever on the Mercy seat on our behalf.

So, if you want to love her in practical terms, you have to keep praying for her.

Cover her up in prayers, stand in the gap for her. Pray that she be strengthened to fulfill her calling as your help meet in life.

Rather than complain about her weaknesses, pray for her.

Lord, help me and teach me how to love and understand my fiancée in Jesus Name.

God bless you.