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MEN, LEARN TO SAY NO

As a man of godly value, you must learn how to say no to any lady who fights against your values and priorities. Your values are not just personal preferences; they are convictions rooted in God’s Word and tied to your purpose and destiny. When you compromise them for emotional comfort or fear of losing someone, you risk losing yourself and derailing your calling. Amos 3:3 asks, "Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?" If she resists or mocks what defines your life in Christ, it is not love—it is opposition disguised as affection.

Saying no is not about arrogance or pride; it is about guarding your God-given assignment. Proverbs 4:23 says, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life." The woman who fights your values today will eventually fight your purpose tomorrow. A godly man must prioritize alignment over attraction, purpose over pleasure, and obedience to God over emotional attachment. If she constantly competes with your priorities, challenges your boundaries, or pulls you away from spiritual discipline, it’s a red flag you cannot ignore.

Repentance is not just for sin—it is also for misaligned decisions and misplaced affections. If you’ve entertained or pursued a relationship with someone who opposes your values, it’s time to repent and adjust. Second Corinthians 6:14 warns, "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness?" This does not only apply to unbelievers but to anyone who rejects or disrespects the standards God has set for your life. Repentance repositions you to walk in clarity, strength, and authority over your heart.

Adjust by recommitting yourself to your values and surrounding yourself with accountability. A man who fears God does not apologize for his standards; he enforces them with love and wisdom. Remember Joseph’s firmness in Genesis 39:9 when he said, "How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?" His "no" preserved his destiny. Men of value are protectors of vision and carriers of discipline. If you truly desire a woman who supports your purpose, you must first be courageous enough to say no to anyone who opposes it.

Prince Victor Matthew 

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