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WHEN SHE IS EVERYTHING YOUR PRAYED FOR BUT YOU ARE NOT READY

Brother, I know what it feels like to meet her—the woman who seems like an answer to the very prayers you whispered in your quiet moments. She’s godly, kind, wise, and her presence brings peace. But deep inside, there’s this uneasy feeling: “I’m not ready.” Not ready to lead her, to build with her, or even to hold the weight of such a gift. And that’s not weakness—that’s honesty. A man who admits he needs to grow is already on the path to becoming.

Proverbs 24:27 reminds us of divine order: prepare your field before you build your house. In other words, get your life, your vision, your values, and your spiritual foundation in place before trying to build a future with someone. It’s not enough to desire her; you must also be positioned to protect and provide—not just financially, but emotionally, spiritually, and in purpose. Your field must be fruitful before your house can stand strong.

Don’t mistake delay for denial. If she truly aligns with your future, God is not using time to take her away from you—He’s using it to prepare you for her. A house built too early will collapse, even if the woman inside it is everything you prayed for. Focus on becoming the man who can keep what he receives. The waiting season is not a punishment; it’s preparation.

It’s okay to ask her to give you time—not because you’re playing games, but because you’re building something worth lasting. But don’t waste that time. Work your field. Deal with your inconsistencies. Grow in wisdom. Heal from your past. Strengthen your walk with God. A ready woman waiting on an unready man is a tragedy in the making. Don’t let fear or passivity be the reason you lose a good thing.

She may be everything you prayed for, but are you becoming the man she also prayed for? That’s the real question. Love is not just about being present—it’s about being prepared. Keep building, brother. When your field is ready, your house will rise in wisdom, and if she’s part of your story, she’ll still be there—not waiting on a boy to figure it out, but standing beside a man who finally did.

Prince Victor Matthew 

Hope Expression Values 

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