WHEN SHE IS TOILING WITH YOUR FEELINGS My brothers, this is the will of God for you; irrespective of your greatness – don’t be rude to a lady for any reason (be it her fault or not). When you are asking a lady to start a serious relationship with you or when you are at the stage of asking”will you marry me?” – DON’T BE RUDE. Either she is your staff at work or house maid – either she is your daughter in the Lord or your student, as long as she is good enough for you to date or marry her – she’s also good enough for you to be respected. Irrespective of your position or social class, be polite and don’t you ever think in your mind that you are doing her a favour. BUT when you she is toiling with your feelings due to her own insecurity, don’t stay and suffer it. If she can’t trust you, you can never make her trust you. Let the decision of her trusting you come as a willful decision from her. Don’t keep silent. Bring it up and talk about it. It’s your duty to tell her how it

WHEN SHE SAYS “NO” You need to understand that friendship, relationship and love is a platform of freedom. Some ladies already know what is coming their way. When you ask for an emotional relationship and she says no – it doesn’t mean she is a bad lady. This can be an honest answer. Don’t fight it, don’t force it, don’t manipulate it, don’t give money or gift to impress her enough to say YES. If she needs you, fine, if she doesn’t need you – don’t feel bad about it. Don’t let it affect your self esteem. If you truly love her, you will respect her decision. When she says no to you, it doesn’t mean you are inferior to her and it doesn’t mean you are useless. When she says no, it does mean that her priority and your priority is not on a common ground.  Don’t hate any lady for saying NO to your proposal and you and her can still be good friends (platonic). There is more to life than you dating her. There are lot of things God can use you to do in her life. There are th

SECURITY Starting a serious relationship with a lady will demand you to be emotionally secure. Are you comfortable with your self? Do you get intimidated by a ladies success? Can you be humble to learn from a lady? You are secure? Is your confidence, plans, project and vision strong enough to conquer her fears, worries and doubts? Can you attitude command respect from her or it makes her to doubt her security? Can she be confident to say, I will be fulfilled in life if our children inherit your attitude? How secure is she around you and around the friends you keep? Can she trust you with her money? Can she trust you with her past? Can she be free to be her self without the fear of being judged, condemn or rejected? How secure can she be around you? Can you protect her, defend her and stand up for her in the midst of your friends, her friends and your family? Every lady loves financial security, even if you don’t have much money to spend for her, are you available? I

FREEDOM AND FLEXIBILITY Are you the kind of man that respects a lady’s decision? Relationship is a platform of freedom and flexibility. It’s not a place for manipulation and being domineering over a lady. This is not a place for you alone; it’s a platform for you and any lady you want to date. This should be a platform where the lady’s opinion and decision count. It’s a teamwork – not a lord and servant affair. As a man, you should be able to give any lady the freedom to say, do, and achieve things that surround their interest, talent and creativity. It’s not all about her becoming what you want. It’s all about her becoming her real self – the person God created her to become. You must be a man that gives a lady the freedom to express and use their talents and creativity. You must be the kind of man that is not intimidated by the success of a lady. You must be the kind of man that support and encourage a lady to pursue her vision and calling in God. You must be a man th

COMMUNICATION Communication is the foundation and strength of relationship. It is a team work that will require the two people to be actively involved. Do you have an effective communication skill? In order for you to have an effective communication skill, you must learn to live a life above assumption and presumption. The most important thing is your listening skill. Your ability to listen will determine your ability to communicate effectively. If you have a poor listen skill, you will communicate wrongly. Wrong communication skill will affect the way the lady will receive the proposal. Relationship is not about what you  say; it’s about how you say what you have to say. BE WISE. Do you have the attitude of phone calls, text messages, whatsup chat? If you don’t, you must learn it before you ask that lady for a serious relationship. If you really like and love a lady, you should be interested in having an effective communication. Love without effective communication is

Relationship is not a path of you shifting your responsibility on a lady. It is not a platform of a lady living her life for you. Relationship is not a path that should make you a liability to a lady. It’s a life that should make you embrace your responsibility for your self. If you are lazy, stop looking for an industrious lady to date in order for her to be responsibility for your laziness. A lady is not meant to be responsible for your laziness. Be responsible for your self. Deal with your own laziness and be industrious before you start thinking of dating a lady. As a man, if you can’t manage your anger, stop frustrating a lady that is patient as an excuse for your irresponsibility. Deal with your own anger. No lady ought to be responsible for your inability to deal with your own anger. If you don’t know how to spend wisely, stop looking for a lady that is wealthy. Stop looking for a lady to frustrate. Deal with your own foolishness and lack of wise spending. Whatsoev

Amos 3:3 Can two walk together except they agree. You are welcome to MEN OF GODLY VALUE. In this month of September, we shall be looking into a topic the Holy Spirit has instructed me to teach through His Grace. Last month (August), we looked into the issue of ‘WHERE IS THE KING?’ and the Lord was able to deal with certain issues we’ve over looked. Praise God! Let’s go into the business of the day. May the Holy Spirit help you to learn and understand His intention on this subject in Jesus Name. You are welcome to this seminar and on this platform. The Holy Spirit wants to teach us the truth of Him Word on this subject. I am writing this by His Grace; I don’t know it all or have it all or seen it all. In Christ Jesus my knowledge in complete. What is proposal? Proposal is a SUGGESTION, APPLICATION, PLAN or OFFER for a relationship a man presents to a lady with the option of her accepting or decline. These usually come with the freedom of choice and decision.