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The Marriage Proposal - Part 7


WHEN SHE IS TOILING WITH YOUR FEELINGS
My brothers, this is the will of God for you; irrespective of your greatness – don’t be rude to a lady for any reason (be it her fault or not). When you are asking a lady to start a serious relationship with you or when you are at the stage of asking”will you marry me?” – DON’T BE RUDE. Either she is your staff at work or house maid – either she is your daughter in the Lord or your student, as long as she is good enough for you to date or marry her – she’s also good enough for you to be respected.

Irrespective of your position or social class, be polite and don’t you ever think in your mind that you are doing her a favour. BUT when you she is toiling with your feelings due to her own insecurity, don’t stay and suffer it. If she can’t trust you, you can never make her trust you. Let the decision of her trusting you come as a willful decision from her.

Don’t keep silent. Bring it up and talk about it. It’s your duty to tell her how it hurts your feeling. If she’s not considerate with you, don’t settle for less. 

Don’t be a victim of her own insecurity. Allow her to conquer her own insecurity and allow her to conquer her own fears, worries and doubt through the Word of God. Allow her to fight her own fight.
It’s not in your power to choose who you ask out – then propose. Your personal relationship with the word of God is what should determine your choice. The knowledge and understanding of your calling in Christ is what should determine who you can date and marry.

Don’t let the curves, shapes and the expectation of people to decisive you. Your calling, vision, purpose and assignment in Christ is what will dictate the capacity of the kind of lady you can date. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Don’t depend on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path.

I can’t teach all things in this subject. I hereby commend you to the Holy Spirit to teach and guild you in this subject. May the Holy Spirit help you to become the kind of man He has created you to become in Jesus Name

Shalom!

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