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The Marriage Proposal - Part 3




COMMUNICATION

Communication is the foundation and strength of relationship. It is a team work that will require the two people to be actively involved. Do you have an effective communication skill? In order for you to have an effective communication skill, you must learn to live a life above assumption and presumption.

The most important thing is your listening skill. Your ability to listen will determine your ability to communicate effectively. If you have a poor listen skill, you will communicate wrongly. Wrong communication skill will affect the way the lady will receive the proposal.

Relationship is not about what you  say; it’s about how you say what you have to say. BE WISE.

Do you have the attitude of phone calls, text messages, whatsup chat? If you don’t, you must learn it before you ask that lady for a serious relationship. If you really like and love a lady, you should be interested in having an effective communication. Love without effective communication is frustration.

Communication is not the major problem. The challenge is what are you really saying? Are your words building, encouraging and inspiring her? Are your words full of suspect, insecurity, abuse and uncertain? Listening to her is not the major problem. The challenge is what are you hearing? Are you listening to her with the interest of knowing and understanding her? Are you listening to her with aim of finding fault? Are you listening for what you want to hear or you are listening to what she’s need to say?

I am so amazed when men tell me they don’t even know how to start a good conversation with a lady. Some men say - I don’t know what to say and how to start the conversation. This shouldn’t be.

My brothers, there many things to discuss; You can start up a conversation about your passion, things that interest you, your believes, your talent, your creativity…etc. You can start with what you know and also ask questions about what you don’t know. Be bold to start a conversation with a lady. Be polite, be direct and be sure she is in the mood for a conversation.

At your first conversation, avoid asking her personal question. Infact, your first assignment is for you to make her feel secure talking to you. Whatsoever you want to know about her, you will have to tell her your own side of the story first…as this will help her to open up to you.

Allow your conversation to make her feel secure enough for her to share personal information. Don’t rush, follow her at her own pace and don’t force it. Don’t try to use gift and money to manipulate the process or her into liking you.

To be continued...

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