If you are lazy, stop looking for an industrious lady to date in order for her to be responsibility for your laziness. A lady is not meant to be responsible for your laziness. Be responsible for your self. Deal with your own laziness and be industrious before you start thinking of dating a lady.
As a man, if you can’t manage your anger, stop frustrating a lady that is patient as an excuse for your irresponsibility. Deal with your own anger. No lady ought to be responsible for your inability to deal with your own anger.
If you don’t know how to spend wisely, stop looking for a lady that is wealthy. Stop looking for a lady to frustrate. Deal with your own foolishness and lack of wise spending. Whatsoever your weakness might is, deal with them first before you thinks of importing an unhealthy personality into that ladies life.
Before you think of asking that lady for a serious relationship, ARE YOU HEALTHY? CAN YOU DATE YOURSELF AND BE FULFILLED?
Are you emotionally healthy? Are you healthy in the area of your attitude? Are you mentally healthy? What is the quality of your personality you are expecting her to accept? What are you importing into her life; Poison or Life – Frustration or Help?
Before you ask her to start a serious relationship with you, SIT, THINK AND CONSIDER.
These are not all you should consider, there are more but this is why my knowledge stops. Consider the following wisely.
FRIENDSHIP
This is the first thing that should be considered. You must come to a place of making sure this lady is your friend.
For any lady to be your friend, you should be able to fine the common ground you have with her. What is your priority? What are your values? Do your priorities accept her priority? Do her values accept your values?
In other to start any healthy relationship with any lady, the first thing to build is FRIENDSHIP. You need to come to a place where you can be yourself around her without her feeling embarrassed. She must be able to joke with you, study the bible together, pray together and respect your individual difference.
Balance is needed. The friendship must come to a place of you and her becoming interested in keeping the friendship at all cost (risk). Friendship is not a one man deal. Friendship is about two people who are willingly accepting each other for the aim of achieving a common goal.
Every friendship must be NEED define. What are you looking for in life? What do you have? What is she looking for in life? What does she have?
You must be able to feed her need and she must be able to feed your need. Your need must be defined through the scriptures, your talent and creativity.
Friendship is all about feeding each others need. You must understand that NEED are either carnal or Godly. You have no business feeding her carnal NEED or she feeding your carnal NEED. Carnal needs are the work of the flesh, lust of the eyes, pride of life, and lust of the flesh. God is not expecting you to feed her carnal NEED or she feeding your carnal NEED. Godly NEEDS are the self development in the area of your talent, creativity, and the fruit of the spirit. God is expecting you to feed her NEEDS in these areas and she is meant to feed your NEEDS in these areas.
Can you trust her? Can she trust you? Can she listen to you? Can you listen to her? Can she share her fears, worries and doubts with you? Can you share your fears, worries and doubts? Do you judge her? Is she always judging you? Do you forgive her and does she forgive you?
TO BE CONTINUED...
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