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The Marriage Proposal - Part 4




FREEDOM AND FLEXIBILITY

Are you the kind of man that respects a lady’s decision?

Relationship is a platform of freedom and flexibility. It’s not a place for manipulation and being domineering over a lady. This is not a place for you alone; it’s a platform for you and any lady you want to date. This should be a platform where the lady’s opinion and decision count. It’s a teamwork – not a lord and servant affair.

As a man, you should be able to give any lady the freedom to say, do, and achieve things that surround their interest, talent and creativity. It’s not all about her becoming what you want. It’s all about her becoming her real self – the person God created her to become.

You must be a man that gives a lady the freedom to express and use their talents and creativity. You must be the kind of man that is not intimidated by the success of a lady. You must be the kind of man that support and encourage a lady to pursue her vision and calling in God. You must be a man that gives a lady the freedom to advice you, correct you and confront you without you getting angry.

You must be a man that is ready to be responsible and accountable to God, your mentor and your love-mate. You must be the kind of man that admits mistakes when you are wrong apologize when necessary and reconcile when misunderstanding strike.

Be that kind of man whose lady is free to joke, play, laugh, cry, pray, study bible, make mistakes…etc and still know you will not judge or condemn her. Be that kind of man whose strength compliments the weakness of her lady. Be that kind of man who is willing to ask for help when necessary. Give her the freedom and be flexible to her ideas and opinion. You both are two different people from two different background and upbringing - BE FLEXIBLE!

PRIVACY

The greatest thing any lady would want is the ability of her trusting you. As a man, don’t gossip about any lady. Stop discussing an issue a lady shared with you out of trust. Be a man that protects the privacy of a lady. Be it her past, weaknesses, mistakes, fears, worry and doubt – protect – PROTECT HER.

As a man, learn to know it’s a shame on your side when you start exposing a ladies weaknesses, pains, past, fear…etc to your friends or family member. Don’t even try to make jokes in public about her privacy. You are not bond to answer all the questions your friends and family member would want to know about her privacy. You must draw a boundary. They are times you will tell your friends to just shut up. There are some issues you will need to tell your friends or people to mind their business.

When you are in private or public, learn to know when to shut up and when to speak. Learn to know the questions to avoid answering and the questions to answer. Be a man that protects a lady’s privacy. In anger, don’t do any thing or expose her privacy just to back at her.

Here is wisdom, if you protect her, you protect your self. If you protect her privacy, you are also protecting your own dignity. In every healthy relationship, what affects one person will directly or indirectly affect the other partner.

To be continued...

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