I just discovered of recent that the obstacle of youths is Grace. Looking around me I can see how youths and even teenagers are so hungry for attention, affection, respect and approval at all cost. That's not the problem. We are wired to seek  for these things but some people don't stay with the Grace God has given them. No body can value you above the value the Grace God has given you will offer to you. Some times, people put laws into their own hands. They put up attitudes, create events and situation to set up  and create value and respect for their selves. But unknowingly to them, their pursuit to create respect and value for their own self is what is tearing the value and respect God's Grace is preserving for them. Don't make any body like you. Don't prove to any body you are valuable and unique. Don't use your own fears and doubt to judge people. The greatest challenge of people is that, they don't feel respected because they are not co

Being a man is a calling and ministry. I have observed and notice the male gender have plenty excuses to be irresponsible . I don't care who failed you but you can be better. As a man, you need to learn and define your direction in life through your personal relationship with the Lord You are a king and it's your duty to be established in the studying of God's Word. It's your duty to stand in the gap in the place of prayer for your life and your destiny.  You need to be a man of  character and of polite words. Be humble and allow your life to preach truth and righteousness to people.  It's okay that you were victimised but it's time to make sure you don't victimise any body. You are a man of character and vision. I believe in you and God is committed to your life. Jesus loves you so much

Seek to understand her person You cannot love a person you don't know or understand. Love is spelt as understanding the totality of her person. Her past, present, challenges, weakness, strength, temperament, struggles etc. Understanding another person is a huge task and that is why you need the Holy Spirit to teach you how to love her. This is one of the reasons why falling in love with an unbeliever is a mistake, he simply cannot know or understand you talk less of adequately loving you in the real sense. Seek healing for her past hurts Some ladies are wounded and bleeding as a result of childhood abuse, rape, verbal, emotional or psychological rejection etc. Whatever the situation, in loving her, you must seek to help her in her healing process. Until she is healed of her past she cannot receive or enjoy love. Loving her means not using her past against her. Point her always to God A wise guy will make sure her fiancée has a personal re

You are a man. You are a provider. You are a protector.  You are visionary in nature.  You are a leader.  You are a king!   Pursue all the Lord has kept in your hands and heart Live above your fears, worries and doubt Turn your pain to passion. you may loose all but don't loose your peace of mind Let this mind be in you just as it is in Christ Jesus.  Be encouraged

Beloved!   You are a Godly man and I want you to consider this.   *Don't be careless* Love is not foolishness.   Love is not stupidity.   I want you to understand that every thing in life is two sided. Relationship is two sided. The other people should be interested in the relationship just like you are interested.   You have being respecting a lady and giving her attention but she doesn't do the same to you; please keep to your self.  Stop investing on the wrong soil. When you keep respecting a lady that doesn't have time for you, that's inferiority complex.   Love is two sided. Don't stay committed to a lady that is not committed to you. Stop calling a lady that doesn't appreciate your calls. Stop spending for a lady that lacks a heart of gratitude.    *Don't be careless!*       No lady irrespective of her beauty is doing you a favour by loving you, accepting you and having a relationship.  Every lady needs a r

Beloved of God!   Beauty is a tool need for undertaking a vision and assignment in destiny. It's needed and enjoyed by people who understand what God has called them to be and do.  Beauty is first a liability that will demand your attention for value and positive impact. Desiring beauty is not enough, can you add more value to beauty when you get it.  The beauty of a lady is a liability that will challenge your intellectual capacity to grow and improve. The beauty of a lady is a tool.  Don't get lost in thought. Beauty is not being fair, dark, slim, average and fat. Beauty is the capacity of a lady. It is the right knowledge, right understanding and the right wisdom a lady possesses.   If you need a beautiful lady then my question will be; *why do you need a beautiful lady?*  Do you just want to feed your ego?  Do you just want to show off?  Do you just want to build your self esteem through her beauty?  If your answer is yes! You need a beauti

Men of Godly Value Strength is not in you bragging. Strength is not in capacity. Strength is in how you develop your capacity and also use it to add value to this generation. Look around you, the word "father" or "husband" is become empty words and their meaning are fading daily. Crime is increasing, rape is increasing, and a lot of children, teenagers and youths are out there; lacking a sense of direction because Fatherhood is absent.  What kind of a father are you becoming daily? How do you treat the children, teenagers and youths that surrounds you? Do you just see them and look away without any sense of responsibility?  Do you just judge, complain and tag them as stubborn? My brothers! This is a call. I am calling the Father in you to stand up. I am awaking the father God has created you to be to embrace responsibility.  You are a Father! You might not have a child yet but you are wired as a Father. Either

Beloved!  You are the very first of the human race (male). You are the foundation of human race for out of man, woman was made. This point the seriousness of your identity and role as the man The destiny and strength of a male gender is not just about "sex, money, and power." This is far from the operations of God. The Male gender was created as the leader. You are a leader. I don't care if you are a teenager or youth or adult; you were designed a leader.  In the beginning of creation, no single instruction was given to the woman. God gave Man all instructions to be kept as a sign of him embracing leadership. When Adam and Eve disobeyed - the first person God confronted was Adam even thou Eve caused the whole issue. The reason is because "man is the leader." Live with this consciousness and embrace your calling of responsibility. God wants you to lead your self first through your obedience to his word. In doing this lies your opportunit

Habakkuk 2:1 I will stand upon my watch, and set me upon the tower, and will watch to see what he will say unto me, and what I shall answer when I am reproved.   As a man, the first step to love at foresight is in you standing. A lot of men as sleeping in ignorance, procrastination, and excuses; this is not the will of God. Some men that are standing are standing in pride, greed, lust, and ignorance; this not the will of God. Teenagers and youths are confused of their future because no father modelled the attitude of standing for them. As a man standing is you knowing who God has created you to be. Standing is self discovering through the Word of God. Standing is being responsible and accountable to God in every aspect of you life. My brother, God created you a male so you can stand; stand for your self, standing for your siblings and your generation. To stand is you studying and meditating on the scriptures. If you must love at foresight, the first step is you gaining th

In fact, if you look up the word modesty, it has absolutely nothing to do with gender. It’s defined by: behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency. Modesty comes down to doing our part to avoid indecency. It can be present in how we dress. It can be displayed in how we behave. It can exist in how we interact. And modesty can most definitely be expected in how we think. Just as we’re teaching our girls to value their bodies, we’re teaching our boys to value their minds, their thoughts, and their behaviors. We’re teaching them to take ownership of their internal world, just as much as they take ownership of their external world. We’re teaching them that the objectification of women is NOT the standard, and in fact, it’s unacceptable in this home. We’re teaching them to see the opposite sex as living, breathing, human beings who deserve honor, respect, and equality in every way. We’re teaching them that THEY are in charge of their own mode

My Brothers! OUR PARENTS, OUR CLASS ROOM. I suffered a lot before the Holy Spirit was helped me to understand this truth and since then, I had rest of mind. First, your parents are the best parents ever. It's either yes or yes. They might not be who you want them to be. But you are here today because your parents made a way for you. It's easy for your gender to pick faults with dad or mum's life but what we have not be able to notice is the wisdom in their mistakes. The mistakes of your parents are the greatest treasure and inheritance. If you loose the touch of it, you will end up being worse than when they have become today. You might agree with me or disagree but your parents tried their best and gave their best effort. You can sit and judge them for some things but what you don't understand is "the struggles of parenting." You expect a lot for your parents but what you don't know is that they are confused about some issues just like you. They

In the world of love and relationship, we always have the ups and down from time to time. There will be times of pain and time of refreshing. I want to use Eccl 3:1 as my case study here. I also want to dedicate this post to men. You are a Son in God's kingdom and you deserve the best in love and relationship. There is time for every thing in life and I want you to open your eyes and learn. You can’t just be living as thou you can do what we like just because you are handsome and heart broken. You need to come to a place where you respect order, time, and season. This is the first principle in you becoming the man God created you to be. She is innocent! You might not agree with me but this lady in front of you. This lady that asked you out or the lady you just accepted for a serious relationship is innocent. I need you to come to place where you let go all the anger, revenge, and bitterness in your heart. I know you gave your best to your ex. I admit that you were honest,

Lord, create in me a clean heart and renew a right spirit within me (Psalm 51:10). Show me where my attitude and thoughts are not what You would have them to be, especially toward my wife. Convict me when I am being unforgiving. Help me to let go of any anger, so that confusion will not have a place in my mind. If there is behavior in me that needs to change, enable me to make changes that last. Whatever You reveal to me, I will confess to You as sin. Make me a man after Your own heart. Enable me to be the head of my home and family that You created me to be. Lord, show me how to really cover (wife’s name or future wife’s name) in prayer. Enable me to dwell with her with understanding and give honor to her so that my prayers will not be hindered (1 Peter 3:7). Renew our love for one another. Heal any wounds that have caused a rift between us. Give me patience, understanding, and compassion. Help me to be loving, tenderhearted, and courteous to her just

Worship is not just a song but a lifestyle. Worship is not about the sound or music. Worship is an attitude. Worship to God is in every thing we do, see, think, desire and expect. Worship to God is the way you treat people (even when you are angry). Worship to God is in what you do when you are excited. Worship to God is in how you listen to people in conversation. Worship to God is how you depend on God for making every single decision of your life. Worship to God is in your polite words to people. Worship to God is in how you manage your sexual urge. Worship to God is in the choice of the kind of website you vision online. Worship to God in the way you forgive, love, and have compassion on people. Worship to God is in the way you discipline, rebuke and correct people (as God's children). Worship to God is in how you breakup with some one you are dating with the consciousness that this person you are breaking up with is still precious to God. Worship to God is the ki

If you are finding it hard to understand what Gods daughter (suitable) need, here’s what they’re looking for: Honesty More than any other trait, women are looking for a man who is open and honest.  The thing about honesty is that it’s a sign of security.  What you see is what you get and there is absolutely nothing to hide.  Men, it’s time to stop pretending and start being real.  Real with your strengths, your weaknesses, your struggles.  Real with your hopes, your dreams, and your fears.  Real with who you actually are; not who you want to be.  A man who has nothing to hide becomes the safe place in which a woman can hide her heart (Tweet it!).  Now that’s straight-up manly. Purity We live in a society that has fooled us into thinking that women have no control over their emotions, and men have no control over their eyes.  I’m a firm believer that this is a lie straight from the pit of hell.  It sickens me to interact with women who expect their men to fall prey to lust, chea

John 10:10  The thief cometh not, but for to STEAL, and to KILL, and to DESTROY: I am come that they might have LIFE, and that they might have it more abundantly.   What is the GIFT OF LOVE? The GIFT OF LOVE is a LIFESTYLE and a personality that has a desire to give LIFE. The GIFT OF LOVE is the experience of Eternal LIFE manifesting through humans. The GIFT OF LOVE is an attitude and mindset that is rooted in Gods nature. The GIFT OF LOVE is the nature of LOVE as an experience in people’s lives. The GIFT OF LOVE is not a feeling; it’s an experience. The GIFT OF LOVE is the freedom you offer to the people around you. The GIFT OF LOVE is the absence of manipulation and domineering attitude. The GIFT OF LOVE is the truth and trust from God perspective. The GIFT OF LOVE is the value you add to peoples lives with a pure and Godly motive. The GIFT OF LOVE is any man in CHRIST, living and walking in Gods Nature. Who is the GIFT OF LOVE? The GIFT OF LOVE is LIFE. The