WHEN SHE IS TOILING WITH YOUR FEELINGS My brothers, this is the will of God for you; irrespective of your greatness – don’t be rude to a lady for any reason (be it her fault or not). When you are asking a lady to start a serious relationship with you or when you are at the stage of asking”will you marry me?” – DON’T BE RUDE. Either she is your staff at work or house maid – either she is your daughter in the Lord or your student, as long as she is good enough for you to date or marry her – she’s also good enough for you to be respected. Irrespective of your position or social class, be polite and don’t you ever think in your mind that you are doing her a favour. BUT when you she is toiling with your feelings due to her own insecurity, don’t stay and suffer it. If she can’t trust you, you can never make her trust you. Let the decision of her trusting you come as a willful decision from her. Don’t keep silent. Bring it up and talk about it. It’s your duty to tell her how it...

WHEN SHE SAYS “NO” You need to understand that friendship, relationship and love is a platform of freedom. Some ladies already know what is coming their way. When you ask for an emotional relationship and she says no – it doesn’t mean she is a bad lady. This can be an honest answer. Don’t fight it, don’t force it, don’t manipulate it, don’t give money or gift to impress her enough to say YES. If she needs you, fine, if she doesn’t need you – don’t feel bad about it. Don’t let it affect your self esteem. If you truly love her, you will respect her decision. When she says no to you, it doesn’t mean you are inferior to her and it doesn’t mean you are useless. When she says no, it does mean that her priority and your priority is not on a common ground.  Don’t hate any lady for saying NO to your proposal and you and her can still be good friends (platonic). There is more to life than you dating her. There are lot of things God can use you to do in her life. There ar...

SECURITY Starting a serious relationship with a lady will demand you to be emotionally secure. Are you comfortable with your self? Do you get intimidated by a ladies success? Can you be humble to learn from a lady? You are secure? Is your confidence, plans, project and vision strong enough to conquer her fears, worries and doubts? Can you attitude command respect from her or it makes her to doubt her security? Can she be confident to say, I will be fulfilled in life if our children inherit your attitude? How secure is she around you and around the friends you keep? Can she trust you with her money? Can she trust you with her past? Can she be free to be her self without the fear of being judged, condemn or rejected? How secure can she be around you? Can you protect her, defend her and stand up for her in the midst of your friends, her friends and your family? Every lady loves financial security, even if you don’t have much money to spend for her, are you available? I...

FREEDOM AND FLEXIBILITY Are you the kind of man that respects a lady’s decision? Relationship is a platform of freedom and flexibility. It’s not a place for manipulation and being domineering over a lady. This is not a place for you alone; it’s a platform for you and any lady you want to date. This should be a platform where the lady’s opinion and decision count. It’s a teamwork – not a lord and servant affair. As a man, you should be able to give any lady the freedom to say, do, and achieve things that surround their interest, talent and creativity. It’s not all about her becoming what you want. It’s all about her becoming her real self – the person God created her to become. You must be a man that gives a lady the freedom to express and use their talents and creativity. You must be the kind of man that is not intimidated by the success of a lady. You must be the kind of man that support and encourage a lady to pursue her vision and calling in God. You must be a man th...

COMMUNICATION Communication is the foundation and strength of relationship. It is a team work that will require the two people to be actively involved. Do you have an effective communication skill? In order for you to have an effective communication skill, you must learn to live a life above assumption and presumption. The most important thing is your listening skill. Your ability to listen will determine your ability to communicate effectively. If you have a poor listen skill, you will communicate wrongly. Wrong communication skill will affect the way the lady will receive the proposal. Relationship is not about what you  say; it’s about how you say what you have to say. BE WISE. Do you have the attitude of phone calls, text messages, whatsup chat? If you don’t, you must learn it before you ask that lady for a serious relationship. If you really like and love a lady, you should be interested in having an effective communication. Love without effective communication...

Relationship is not a path of you shifting your responsibility on a lady. It is not a platform of a lady living her life for you. Relationship is not a path that should make you a liability to a lady. It’s a life that should make you embrace your responsibility for your self. If you are lazy, stop looking for an industrious lady to date in order for her to be responsibility for your laziness. A lady is not meant to be responsible for your laziness. Be responsible for your self. Deal with your own laziness and be industrious before you start thinking of dating a lady. As a man, if you can’t manage your anger, stop frustrating a lady that is patient as an excuse for your irresponsibility. Deal with your own anger. No lady ought to be responsible for your inability to deal with your own anger. If you don’t know how to spend wisely, stop looking for a lady that is wealthy. Stop looking for a lady to frustrate. Deal with your own foolishness and lack of wise spending. Whatsoev...

Amos 3:3 Can two walk together except they agree. You are welcome to MEN OF GODLY VALUE. In this month of September, we shall be looking into a topic the Holy Spirit has instructed me to teach through His Grace. Last month (August), we looked into the issue of ‘WHERE IS THE KING?’ and the Lord was able to deal with certain issues we’ve over looked. Praise God! Let’s go into the business of the day. May the Holy Spirit help you to learn and understand His intention on this subject in Jesus Name. You are welcome to this seminar and on this platform. The Holy Spirit wants to teach us the truth of Him Word on this subject. I am writing this by His Grace; I don’t know it all or have it all or seen it all. In Christ Jesus my knowledge in complete. What is proposal? Proposal is a SUGGESTION, APPLICATION, PLAN or OFFER for a relationship a man presents to a lady with the option of her accepting or decline. These usually come with the freedom of choice and decision....

DEEP SLEEP  is when you avoid  LORDING  your self over any lady.  IT’S YOU KNOWING LOVE IS NOT  all about changing any lady into who you want them to be.  IT’S YOU KNOWING THAT ONLY GOD CAN CHANGE ANY LADY TO HIS PLAN.   IT’S A PLACE YOU CHOOSE TO TRUST INSTEAD OF TESTING AND TOILING WITH THE EMOTIONS OF ANY LADY . DEEP SLEEP  is you giving any lady  FREEDOM . It’s you giving any lady the freedom to discover and pursue their God’s given dream, calling and vision. It’s you learning to compliment any lady  INSTEAD  of competing with them. It‘s accepting and feeling secure despite the success of the ladies around you. It’s only in  DEEP SLEEP  you can truly find true love. If you don’t allow God to put you in  DEEP SLEEP , the Lord will never present your wife to you. The Ladies are God’s daughter and He must be able to trust you with their safety before he present the lady before you. The reason why you...

Your effort is not needed here. It’s full of Grace and Truth. This is the manifestation of the finished work of Christ. As a man, you must come to understand that you can only enjoy friendship and relationship through your availability and humility. Any friendship or relationship you are emotionally absent is an abuse. It is called friendship or relationship because availability is  NEEDED . ·           Are you emotionally available? ·           Are you available for communication? ·           Are you available to listen to her? ·           Are you available to be committed to her? ·           Are you available to accept your individual difference? ·           Are you available to forgive he...

Then the Lord God caused the man into a DEEP SLEEP, and took one of the man’s rib and closed up the place from which he had removed it, and made the rib into a woman, and brought her to the man.  This is it! Adam exclaimed. “She is part of my own bone and flesh! Her name is ‘woman’ because she was taken out of a man.  Genesis 2:21 – 22 You are welcome to this  MEN OF GODLY VALUE  online seminar –  DEEP SLEEP (Set your love free). I welcome you in the Name of our Lord Jesus. What is  DEEP SLEEP ? DEEP SLEEP  is the lifestyle and an attitude the Holy Spirit develops in every man through the word of God. This is the total dependency on the Holy Spirit. This is you trusting the Lord with all submission. This is you acknowledging that God is in charge of every details of your life. This is you submitting to the Lordship of Jesus in every area of your life. DEEP SLEEP  is an attitude of humility and loyalty to God and ...

Have different ladies turn down your proposal? Have you failed in the project, calling or talent? Have mum or dad or even your mentor given up on you? Are you afraid to trust, love and dream again? Are you bond by your fears, worries and doubt? God is aware of them all. YOU ARE STILL THE KING. Do you have a sugar mummy? Have you lost your faith? Have you abandoned your personal relationship with God? Have you stopped praying and studying your bible? It's not too late to return to Jesus. YOU ARE STILL THE KING Have you stopped practising your skills? Have you quit your passion? As a blogger, have you stopped blogging? As a song writer, have you quit writing? As a music producer, have you lost your passion and drive? Whoever you are, no matter how far you have gone. Come to Jesus today, YOU ARE STILL THE KING The gift and calling of God is without repentance. As a pastor, have you impregnated any lady before? Have you misbehaviour in any way? Come to Jesus today... YOU ...

Men were taught to always succeed but no one ever taught him how to learn from his mistakes and failures. They were taught a man do not cry but no one taught them how to be honest about their true feeling. There were taught they are the solution provider but no one taught them how to ask for help when they are in need. WHERE IS THE KING? Men were taught they have the freedom to propose to any lady they are interested in but no one taught them that every lady has the freedom to say yes or no willingly. They were taught to provide for the family but no one taught them how to pursue their Gods given vision. WHERE IS THE KING? Men were taught to always win but no one ever taught them the beauty of defeat. They were taught how to be confident as a man but no one ever taught them the importance of humility. They like correcting the ladies but no one taught them how to accept correction from ladies. Men like ladies apologising to them but they don't like to apologising to lad...

Some teenagers have been impregnated by their own teenage pastor who was suppose to nurture and train them in God's word. WHERE IS THE KING? Some youths have been impregnated by their own youth pastor who was suppose to nurture and train them in God's word. They are even having sexual affair with their spiritual leaders and still think nothing is wrong with it. Some Leaders take advantage of the ignorance of the youths and teenagers. WHERE IS THE KING? Marriage is loosing it's value today because some fathers that should model forgiveness and reconciliation have choose to embrace divorce. WHERE IS THE KING? Mentors that should constantly invest in the self development of the people under their care are not victimising the people they are meant to empower. They use their fears, failures and mistakes to judge the youths and teenagers. They feel intimidated by the uniqueness of the youths. WHERE IS THE KING? Men that are meant to be role model, leaders, res...

I want to welcome you to this online seminar for MEN and our case study for this seminar is Adam!  Our Case study will be Genesis 3:9 God who created Adam came in to the Garden of Eden He created and was shocked. For the very first time, the creator and the all knowing God asked a question - Adam! Where are you? Adam! Where are you - was the question God asked when he came to fellowship with Adam. Either you are a male or female, God created man-kind to always be in charge and in control. It's your responsibility to be in charge of thing the Lord has put under your care. This world is totally under our care and what it turn into is either our choice or our fault. It's our full responsibility. God cannot come to earth to operate all by himself - He will need a man to represent him here on earth. With this understanding, you should embrace this truth; if this generation fails or improves - it's going to be either our fault or choice. God came to th...